Evaluate personal readiness to form a family.

Evaluation should include

  • level of emotional maturity
  • level of economic independence
  • level of intellectual maturity
  • relative independence from parents
  • desire to commit to a long-term relationship with another person
  • desire to accept responsibilities associated with marriage and parenthood
  • a realistic view of marriage and parenthood.

Process/Skill Questions:

Thinking

  • What characteristics and qualities do you have that would make you a good spouse? A good parent?
  • What skills and abilities do you have that would help you fulfill the parental responsibilities of physical care, nurturing, and guidance?
  • Why should finances be a factor in the decision to get married or have children?
  • What economic resources do you have now?
  • What resources do you anticipate having in the future?

Communication

  • What communication skills do you have that would help you be a responsible spouse or parent?
  • What skills do you need to learn?
  • What communication skills are needed to investigate the responsibilities of marriage and parenthood?

Leadership

  • What goals have you set for your future?
  • How would these goals change if you married or had a child at your present age?
  • What leadership skills do you need to learn to be a good spouse or a good parent?

Management

  • What ethical standards will help you evaluate your readiness to form a family?
  • What resources can help in evaluating readiness for marriage or parenthood?
  • What skills might you need to parent a family that is blended, a single-parent family, adopted children, or grandchildren?